For someone who gives so much detail to everything I do in the morning, I became aloof to what was happening to my heart for people. I started using my commute to work to perfect the art of ignorance to the suffering of others. Am I a terrible person?Read More
This week, I'm engaging a bit of a different perspective on the blog: An example of a non-affirming Christian who, through her book, Chasing Happy, is attempting to engage the gay and Christian communities from a Christian perspective.
Ann Lee Miller, an evangelical Christian, has written a novel centered on a bisexual Mormon who seeks to understand his new life in Arizona. Throughout the work, Miller engages the topic in a way that seeks to genuinely love LGBTQ individuals, while maintaining a posture of learning for the religious theological questions that are surrounding the Christian church.
In my conversations with her, Miller was acutely aware that her story doesn't capture the majority of the realities for sexual minorities. Instead, she decided to focus on the realities of those closest to her life. Personally, I'm thrilled to see the discussion of gay Christian tensions addressed in such a unique manner!Read More
This past weekend my parents visited me for a week. I’m fortunate enough to have a strong relationship with my parents. In fact, even as I processed my sexuality for the past eight years, they’ve loved me unconditionally throughout it all.
See, they maintain the position of sexuality that asks celibacy of gay individuals, but they’ve come so intimately familiar with the gay/Christian dilemma because of my life. Their sensitivity and heart for gay issues has dramatically grown. They’ve deeply sought to understand my life and they continue to love me as if nothing had changed.
They value my relationship with my partner, because they know I value it. They see that my partner is an important part of my life and so they support us accordingly. When I’m being stubborn or insecure in this relationship, they’re some of the first people to hold me accountable. They offer advice and nearly demand that I continue to be the man they’ve raised in my relationship—regardless of the nature of my relationship.Read More