How Does One “Church” While Estranged?

The context of my spiritual journey cannot be separated from my journey coming to terms with my sexuality. Like many churchgoers, I was raised in the Christian church and I understand how it works—the rituals, the culture, and the belief system. However, unlike many churchgoers, I came out as LGBT and fully separated myself from the church for a span of nearly ten years.

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Grieving For My Gay Son

November 2009, just after Thanksgiving, my son, Austin, confided in me and his father that he was struggling with attraction to men. Austin was 1,400 miles away at college and my first inclination was to buy a one-way ticket for him back home so we could "fix" this issue in person. So began a journey that I never imagined we'd face. "Not our son," I thought, he was a Christian, serving in ministry since junior high, he had girls he was interested in and we were good—not perfect—parents.

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Nothing Less Than Love

It is so important that we do away with caveats when it comes to loving those around us. Caveats mean we put our own spin on who is worthy of God’s love and who isn’t. That spin is usually defined by who we are more than who God is. Our own lenses are faulty no matter how perfect we think they are.

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"Chasing Happy" By Ann Lee Miller

This week, I'm engaging a bit of a different perspective on the blog: An example of a non-affirming Christian who, through her book, Chasing Happy, is attempting to engage the gay and Christian communities from a Christian perspective.

Ann Lee Miller, an evangelical Christian, has written a novel centered on a bisexual Mormon who seeks to understand his new life in Arizona. Throughout the work, Miller engages the topic in a way that seeks to genuinely love LGBTQ individuals, while maintaining a posture of learning for the religious theological questions that are surrounding the Christian church. 

In my conversations with her, Miller was acutely aware that her story doesn't capture the majority of the realities for sexual minorities. Instead, she decided to focus on the realities of those closest to her life. Personally, I'm thrilled to see the discussion of gay Christian tensions addressed in such a unique manner!

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